Posted by Ivan on May 05, 1998 at 08:13:08:

Well, here's an essay from Goran published in the 
last issue of Croatian edition of Cosmopolitan.  The
topic is: "Why am I afraid to say "I love you!"?

INTRODUCTION

If there is someone you want to marry your daughter,
many of you would pick Goran. Tall, well built, "weighs in"
around a few million dollars, his name is pronounced on all
the continents(but not everywhere correctly, ha,ha), it
opens the door of jet-set.  He's a brave fighter, passionate, and as all men, 
unpredictable.  But there is something what he has with all of them in common:
It's hard to say for him: "I love you".

GORAN

No, that's not right.  It's not hard for me if I really do. Maybe it's hard to say in 
front of my male company, they'll always say, "Oh, he’s henpecked.  "But there 
are two kinds of henpecked men: the ones who are and the ones who think they 
are not.  The biggest problem is how many times must your girlfriend hear those 
words from you.  Girls need that,  they're often insecure, they love to hear it.  For 
me the constant obligation to prove my feelings hundred times a day can only 
repel me from such love.  I hate when I'm forced to do anything, and so constant 
love proving. I'm telling those words only when it comes from me, not when I'm 
forced. Smart girls do not need that, they never force, they would recognize the 
love even if it's not said through the words.

Part Two